tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post4953084081835434615..comments2023-06-11T06:38:41.659-07:00Comments on Im Yirtzeh Hashem By You: A word on shidduch resumesiyhbyuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11587115905447016914noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-63310549044898938772011-09-07T20:05:41.768-07:002011-09-07T20:05:41.768-07:00k thanx as they say do ur best and hashem will do ...k thanx as they say do ur best and hashem will do the rest !!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-38996622632647904082011-09-07T16:12:20.967-07:002011-09-07T16:12:20.967-07:00@anon- Thank you! I'm glad you like it. I woul...@anon- Thank you! I'm glad you like it. I would really love to post more, but unfortunately grad school doesn't really give me a lot of free time to write. I will do my best though.iyhbyuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11587115905447016914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-47874228486785440472011-09-06T21:14:42.256-07:002011-09-06T21:14:42.256-07:00ye profile does sound better than a resume .
I alw...ye profile does sound better than a resume .<br />I always thoought resumes sound like ur looking for a job. so profile sounds better when looking for a husband/wife.<br />btw i really like ur blog can u try to post more often ? thanxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-54565296976559576422011-09-05T10:07:12.367-07:002011-09-05T10:07:12.367-07:00I agree about the family thing. It's a good st...I agree about the family thing. It's a good starting point, and everyone is looking for different things in their prospective in-laws. Do you want a close-knit relationship? Is she on good terms with them? A lot of this can be at least hinted to in the profile, and you can go from there in terms of research etc.<br /><br />Profile is definitely the word to use, and I think you're right about profiles being helpful, at least to start off with.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-6538482531738255992011-09-05T08:58:49.340-07:002011-09-05T08:58:49.340-07:00@sibaw- While I don't think you can tell "...@sibaw- While I don't think you can tell "a lot" about a person from resumes, I do agree that it's a good starting point. That's why I don't like it when people don't send me them. I've started reading your resumeology posts, but am going to get through them soon iyh. <br /><br />@Yedid- Really? so what do you do if a shadchan asks you for one?<br /><br />@anon1- I wouldn't turn someone down simply because of a divorce. That's not what I mean by family situation. Let's say a girl's father is in kollel, her siblings are all either in kollel or married to someone in Lakewood. I can usually assume that either that is what she is looking for as well, or we aren't going to have a lot of common ground. Granted, there are exceptions and a shadchan can convince me otherwise, but like other comments have said, it's a good starting point.iyhbyuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11587115905447016914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-57947006666593172512011-09-05T05:03:30.618-07:002011-09-05T05:03:30.618-07:00I like the term shidduch eulogy even more. My brot...I like the term shidduch eulogy even more. My brother invented that after realizing that the only thing missing from these resumes/ profiles is an expiration date!CHnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-78110274848174793342011-09-04T23:26:27.677-07:002011-09-04T23:26:27.677-07:00Just a question: How do you know by her "fam...Just a question: How do you know by her "family situation" whether she is matim for you or not? She could be the greatest girl in the world that you would have a fantastic life with, but her parents might have divorced. Would so no because of that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-21413988410813381342011-09-04T21:32:54.702-07:002011-09-04T21:32:54.702-07:00I think it can tell you about someone-but usually ...I think it can tell you about someone-but usually does not.guyinlanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-70065400588511403202011-09-04T18:42:46.168-07:002011-09-04T18:42:46.168-07:00Most bloggers at some point will blog about resume...Most bloggers at some point will blog about resumes and how they feel about it... I agree that the term profile is a better word for it as we are not selling anyone's performances but Sibaw's got a point, you gotta start somewhere. Personally, I do not have a resume and I am still dreaming of simply meeting someone one day...Yedid Nefeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05768603382212408288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5525633354571466544.post-28107269070960168012011-09-04T15:33:25.898-07:002011-09-04T15:33:25.898-07:00I suspect you’re wrong. You can tell a lot about a...I suspect you’re wrong. You can tell a lot about a person just based on their resume. Or more succinctly, a resume is a really good starting point, even if it doesn’t help you make a definitive answer, it should give you some direction or at least a basis for what questions to ask. See <a href="http://solelyinblackandwhite.blogspot.com/search/label/Resumeoligy/" rel="nofollow">my posts on analyzing resumes</a> for an idea of what I am talking about. <br /><br />With regards to alternative terminologies such as the “profile,” all I have to say is putting lipstick on a pig… ;-)SiBaWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02120649806010100618noreply@blogger.com