Guys and Girls

First of all, I'd like to thank bad4shidduchim for the bump I hope you all enjoy this blog.

In a similar theme to the last post, I'd like to examine the variant difficulties that guys and girls have in shidduchim. Conventional wisdom is that girl's have it harder in shidduchim. I wouldn't disagree.

However, each has unique challenges. On the one hand, girls have a much harder time getting suggestions. Generally, guys do not have such a problem. But while you can't have too much of a good thing, suggestions aren't always good things. It's kind of frustrating to have every single girl's resume, between the ages of 18 and 27, who lives in a 50 mile radius, sent to your inbox. I'm only looking for one. And the one who expressly wants someone learning the rest of his life in kollel when I'm in law school, might not be for me.

Another thing which was addressed in bad4's post was that  guys aren't that different from you Venusites. I think it's true that men aren't as emotional (naturally) as women. Despite the stereotype, that doesn't mean we're emotionless pieces of rock. We've got difficulties with the dating process too. But while a girl might have no problem talking about their emotions involving dating with her friends; guys do. It's not so easy to spill your emotions out to another male friend. It's pretty awkward. I know it would be awkward if someone tried to speak about it with me. So it kind of gets bottled up. (another reason I started this blog.)

I'd rather have more suggestions than I need, than non at all. I'd rather be less emotional and not be able to talk with someone about it, then be really emotional and really need to talk about it. Shlo asani Isha. But that doesn't mean it's a piece of cake.