Dating Stinks

The majority of people I know hate almost everything about shidduchim. Whether it's checking out a prospective date, dealing with seemingly clueless shadchanim,  or all the awkwardness of first dates; It's not fun.

In fact, I know of two people who when they got engaged, told me "I'm not sure if I'm happier about actually being engaged, or that I don't have to date anymore." Though, on the other hand, I know of one person who was upset when he got engaged that he wouldn't have to go on dates anymore. He was just a relaxed guy. and crazy.

I think we all just need to relax, especially on first dates. One of the best pieces of dating advice I heard is-on the first date: don't picture yourself married. Think of it as an ice breaker with a new person that you're meeting. It's alot easier said than done, but I think we need to talk ourselves into forgetting about the signficance of the event, and just not think so hard.

 Maybe then dating won't stink. But it probably will.