I was reading Frumanista's blog this morning, where she talks about why she doesn't like the phrase "im yirtzeh Hashem by you," and I figured I would explain why I chose it as the title of my blog.
It certainly is meant to be tongue-in-cheek. But I picked iyhbyu because it is one of the most loaded phrases in shidduchim. When it is said out of pity, it can certainly be infuriating. However, I think that I'm in the minority of daters that I don't mind the phrase. At the end of the day, it is a bracha, and I'm going to say "amen" if someone says it, or "bekorov etzelcha." I'd rather people not feel like they have to ignore my status as single, and sweep it under the rug. I don't like it when people feel like they can't mention marriage out of fear I will burst into tears or something.
I guess it really depends who it comes from. I certainly agree with Frumanista that an 18 year-old should have a bit more tact than to say it to a 25 year old single. You need to use your judgment. I appreciate it if it is said by someone I know, or an older person. Sometimes I feel like some people are saying it condescendingly, but other times it's like "hey, I know that you're single, but it's cool. You'll get there soon enough. "