The majority of people I know hate almost everything about shidduchim. Whether it's checking out a prospective date, dealing with seemingly clueless shadchanim, or all the awkwardness of first dates; It's not fun.
In fact, I know of two people who when they got engaged, told me "I'm not sure if I'm happier about actually being engaged, or that I don't have to date anymore." Though, on the other hand, I know of one person who was upset when he got engaged that he wouldn't have to go on dates anymore. He was just a relaxed guy. and crazy.
I think we all just need to relax, especially on first dates. One of the best pieces of dating advice I heard is-on the first date: don't picture yourself married. Think of it as an ice breaker with a new person that you're meeting. It's alot easier said than done, but I think we need to talk ourselves into forgetting about the signficance of the event, and just not think so hard.
Maybe then dating won't stink. But it probably will.
Tried that. First dates always stink. Sorry for the pessimism. :)
ReplyDeleteHey, I just stumbled upon your blog, hope it isnt too late to welcome you :)
ReplyDeleteDating does stinks but i think it has lots to do about the attitude, it can make it simpler, easier and way more fun
First dates usually feel like an audition. If you pass the first cut, you get to go onto a second haha
ReplyDelete@yedid- Thanks for the welcome!
ReplyDelete@um- idk if that will help me. I was never a big fan of the stage haha.