One of my favorite dating jokes is: A yeshivish guy takes a girl to a hotel lobby for a first date. He gets up to go to the bathroom, and the second he is out of site, one of the hotel employees rushes over to the girl and says: "Don't trust him honey. He comes here with a different girl every week".
I don't know if that one is true, but I do know someone personally who got asked if she wanted "the usual" by the bartender at a hotel lobby.
Shidduch dating is weird. It seems like there is an unwritten rule that you pretend like you've never dated before. But what do you do when you are on a date and it reminds you of a story from someone you previously dated? Or better yet, do you pretend like you don't know where the bathrooms are located, at your usual dating spot, and ask people for directions?
Personally, I'll say the bad date story but say it involves a friend of mine. And I do like to pretend that I'm not so well versed in the layout of my typical first date spot.
I'm a huge fan of being prepared. I will often go early just to scope out the locale. That knowledge enables me to feel more comfortable, to take leadership and to ensure things go as smoothly as possible.
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I really do not like when guys bring up previous dating stories. I once had a guy who asked me what I thought of dumping people after one time. I told him that if I felt it was going nowhere I would say no - but dude that is a really awkward question to ask a girl on a date!
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